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This is the 6th email in a series I have sent out over the past week. If you feel like you are jumping into a conversation, you are. We have been CELEBRATING "50" this week! If you would like to read the previous emails you may do so by following THIS LINK.
Do you know that when I first started referring to myself as Dr. Doula, other doulas challenged me about the right I had to refer to myself in that manner? A few even stated that it worked against the efforts doulas were trying to make. I tried to explain a couple of times that I was indeed a Doctor of Education and a Doula, but these days I don't bother. In fact, I get sent anonymous messages every now and then about new birth workers coming into the work who also call themselves Dr. Doula. I am excited that people are not seeking to pigeonhole birth workers anymore about how they should seek to serve their ideal clients or express themselves based on their personal calls and missions in life.
I thank you for journeying with me over this past week. It has actually been very cathartic to share these meaningful aspects of my life with you, especially because I am shifting my focus to concentrate on those who feel aligned with it.
Turning 50, I have had an opportunity to contemplate how I desire to move forth in my life as a person who has experienced half of a century on this planet. I have thought about how I want to be seen and known by others. 50 IS HUGE!
In my mind, there is a bit of reckoning that comes. I remember when 50 seemed soooo old. That changed in my mind about a decade ago.
While I do not think of 50 as OLD, I do think of it in age as a time when a person should have gained some wisdom about life. Only in modern times would 50 not be seen as eldership of some kind and a status to be respected. I have chosen to walk in and fully embrace THAT energy… the energy of the Young Elder… A Young Elder who would identify herself as a Birth Ambassador, a Guide, a Relationship Strategist and a Legacy Builder… Along with all of the scholar, researcher, international speaker descriptions I use in my bio.
That is a big deal for me, because the other thing that I have realized is that when you have lived 50 years, you have lived long enough to live through different versions of yourself. And in every version of yourself you collect people who remember you for one reason or another. Some are happy to see you evolve and change, while others prefer the version of you they first met.
AUTHENTICITY and living in your personal truth can become a mission within itself.
It is important that we live in authenticity, so that those we are to connect with can see us clearly, and in my case, can figure out if I am assigned to assist them in some area of their lives. I mean that seriously. That is what this 50th birthday is meaning to me… not wanting to waste anymore time… desiring to be present for those who I am assigned to assist. And having said that, I am fixing my gaze on those I am here to assist through the services I offer.
I have had a few people tell me recently that they know someone who would love to work with me. Is that you? Are you one of the people I am assigned to work with? If so, HOW MAY I SERVE YOU? Are you looking for Birthworker mentoring? Are you in need of guidance through Considering the Heavens? May I (we) help you develop relationship strategies to simplify your life and help you Build Legacy? I would be more than excited to assist you in any of these areas.
I will attach a screenshot of my CELEBRATE “50” offerings below, but here is THE LINK.
Over the next few days, I will be sharing testimonials from some individuals. Take a look at the testimonials and see if what they describe about their experiences with me is aligned with what you are looking for and resonates with you. If it does, make your move! Use the discount code(s) provided and LET'S CONNECT!
My work is informed by my background – experiences, expertise, exposure, education & environment – as a woman, mother, wife, sister, educator, researcher, scholar, advocate, birth ally and legacy builder. #IAmTheAnswer #WeSaveOurselves